Embracing Easter’s Magic – Post 3 – Growing In Love

Love and Grace be always with you!

This post will be dated 4/17/11.  It is Palm sunday, the beginning of Easter week.  April 17 is also my late father’s birthday.  I love you, Daddy, and I miss you terribly.  Thank you for blessing me so greatly, and eternally, with the power of your love!  The tender and steadfast devotion of my father’s love for me was a copious spring, an oasis, from which I drank deeply of the truth of love. It is still so for me, in this new and ever-evolving form.  I honor you, Daddy, always, and welcome growing further with you in love as our hearts continue to grow.

Today we will be talking about using the power of this Holy time, and the increased, profuse influx of Love and Light present within it (that we have been addressing in the last couple posts), to expand our capacities for loving.

Our hearts are the vehicles through which we experience and express love. As we’ve discussed previously, the heart is the voice of the soul.  It is the bridge between physical and spiritual life.  It is through the heart that our soul’s create and express and commune with Divinity.  It is thus, through our Hearts, that we come to know God’s Unconditional Love, and as a result, that we come to truly know how to love and be loved.  Every breath we take, every fiber of our beings, embodies Divine Love.  It is the Truth of Life.

The Divine Presence increases the flow, intensity and frequency of this eternal, omni-present, omni-potent Unconditional Love over the Spring and Easter season to help us evolve into more easily and quickly.  This intensified experience of Divine Love feeds our hearts deeply. It teaches them and supports them in expanding so our souls have a wider, stronger channel through which to help us create more joy, abundance and fulfillment for ourselves.

It helps our hearts expand, also, in our capacities for loving more skillfully and completely.  If we open to the love and to the growth, it will change us.

It takes a lot of courage to let our hearts open in these new ways, and to embrace growth in general. Growth involves change, and much of the time, our personality selves avoid change at all costs. They usually prefers to have everything neatly and completely under their control.

Yet, Love, in Truth, can never be controlled.  It is boundless, eternal, free of fear, fierce. If we wish to love well, and create for ourselves great love, we must be willing to change.  We must be fearless and courageous enough to allow our hearts to grow, and allow our beings, and our lives, to reflect this growth, to transform.

We can work consciously and actively with the blessed power of this Holy time to help our hearts expand by embracing the Love and Light and welcoming it into our hearts! Here are a few tips:

1.  Welcome in the Love and Light, direct your attention to them.  Do your best to feel them, to turn your mind off and tune into them.

2.  Imagine this great Divine Love and Light washing over you, enveloping you, flowing within and around you, cradling you.

3.  Imagine it feeding and teaching your heart.  Open up to any insights, messages, feelings, etc., and write them down.

4.  Stay as connected with these feelings and the state of expansion for as long as you can, and make a mental note of the visceral connection you have with it – how it feels inside you.

5. Tap into that feeling periodically throughout your day – as frequently as you can manage.

6.  Pay attention to any changes you notice in relationships – in the way you feel about your loved ones, in the depth of your feelings, in your attitude, in your style of communication, what bothers you and what doesn’t.

7.  Actively work with reconnecting with those feelings when and if you find yourself slipping into old, limiting, defensive behavioral patterns in relationship, so you have more tools in staying expansive and not constricting.

Letting the wounded sense of self, or wounded ego or personality self, restrict our hearts with judgement, criticism, fear, control, negative messages, false pride, etc., keeps us from being fulfilled in love, as well as in life!  It is that simple!!

I encourage you to embrace the full potential and exquisite beauty of this wondrous Easter season and support your precious heart in expanding as fully as possible into Love!!!  It is a win/win!!

FOLLOWING ARE WAYS YOU MAY SUPPORT YOURSELF AND OTHERS IN LOVING MORE DEEPLY:

Refer:  I build my business by referral.  If you have found this work beneficial, you can help me to reach more people by referring this site to friends.  Thank you!!

***Heart & Soul Food – a powerful weekly phone opportunity to connect spiritually, tap into my strength with love and prayer, and establish momentum for the creation of your dreams.  Heart & Soul Food supports soulmate relationships, sacredness in love and life, abundant flow, health, spiritual alignment and wellbeing.  Thursday evenings, 6:30 – 7:30 p.m. PST.  Fee discounted to $60 per month.  Email: info@voiceofthesoul.net.

***Soul Deep Love – Intensive Healing Program –  A series of 5 private hour and a half long phone sessions to support creating and/or nurturing soulmated relationships, healing, overall wellbeing, personal empowerment, abundant flow and spiritual strength.  Series discounted to $350. (You save $100.)  Email: info@voiceofthesoul.net.

***Soul Deep Love – Teleconference Call Workshop Series A 4 workshop weekly phone course that supports all aspects the soulmate relationship journey, and strengthens the heart and spiritual core, positively impacting all aspects of life.  Tuesday evenings, 6:30 to 8:00 p.m. PST, March 29, and April 5, 12, and 19. Special rate of $80 for the series.  Email:  info@voiceofthesoul.net.

*******SCHOLARSHIP FUND – Support other’s quests for greater love and wellbeing by contributing any amount to my SCHOLARSHIP FUND.  This allows me to offer more pro-bono work, something for which there is currently a great need.  Email:  info@voiceofthesoul.net.

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Embracing Easter’s Light And Magic – Post 2

Blessings, Everyone!  Love and Light to you!

In our last post, we talked about the power of this magical time we are currently within – Spring, Easter, New Life.  As we discussed, there is a heightened showering forth of Divine Love, Light and Grace during this time to give us the chance to break through limitations more easily, to manifest what we desire and to happily transform our lives more quickly.

This is a VERY POWERFUL time to manifest, or begin manifesting that of which we dream, and to create forward positive movement for our lives, relationships, hearts and beings! Embracing these possibilities with passionate consciousness is a great way to make the most of this potent opportunity.

If you are working with the ideas presented in the last Post, you have taken the time to identify and write down the deeper dreams of your heart, and ceremoniously expressed them.  Great!  Here’s some more ways of working with it.

1.  Reaffirm you intentions and visions as regularly as you can by reading them out loud – daily or twice a day – if possible.  Feel them as you express them, and be passionate about it!

2.  Add something to the list, if more ideas come to you, or sharpen your focus, fine-tune your expression if it needs it.  The clearer and stronger you are in your awareness, intention and communication, the clearer the pathway for its creation.

3.  Do something creative to further express them like a collage, an altar, another ceremony.

4.  Continue opening to the “influx of Love and Light.”  Feel it in nature, welcome it spiritually, shift your attention to it.  Allow it to wash over you, to teach you, to feed and expand your heart, to soothe and protect you, stimulate and empower you.

You may also work very effectively with the increased Love and Light to achieve personal goals in terms of emotional and spiritual growth. I use this time as my “spiritual calendar year.”  What I mean by this is that I work consciously and actively with it to grow spiritually and fine-tune and anchor my intentions, visions and goals for the next year.

To do this, I work with what I call “Essences,” and welcome in guidance and awareness and lessons around certain key areas in my life.  So, for example, I ask for guidance about my relationships with people I love, my creative works, my path, my ministry, what areas I need growth or healing, etc.

To do this, I identify these “Essences” and write them down, and I begin welcoming in lessons, awarenesses, insights, etc.  I pay attention to what comes through this time, and tune into the things that seem to be addressing my questions or intentions.  I will write down what I learn when it gets clear enough.

Around Easter time, and on Easter, I also open up and ask these questions specifically to the Holy Ones, and tune in to what they communicate to me, and I write it down.

Everyone has their own ways of connecting, communicating and receiving guidance spiritually.  As we strengthen and grow in our hearts, these natural abilities within us also strengthen and grow.

The more you reach out spiritually, and work that muscle by communicating and tuning in, the better you get at it, and the stronger your interpretive skills get. Trust yourself.

For me, I receive guidance in three primary ways, through words, through seeing how things work and fit together and then expressing it, and through feelings and images that I define.

Using this sacred time to support your spiritual and emotional growth is a very effective and powerful way to further your development, personal success and overall wellbeing.

Till next time, may you dance and sing in the beauty of this Blessed Easter Light.

FOLLOWING ARE WAYS YOU MAY SUPPORT YOURSELF AND OTHERS IN LOVING MORE DEEPLY:

Refer:  I build my business by referral.  If you have found this work beneficial, you can help me to reach more people by referring this site to friends.  Thank you!!

***Heart & Soul Food – a powerful weekly phone opportunity to connect spiritually, tap into my strength with love and prayer, and establish momentum for the creation of your dreams.  Heart & Soul Food supports soulmate relationships, sacredness in love and life, abundant flow, health, spiritual alignment and wellbeing.  Thursday evenings, 6:30 – 7:30 p.m. PST.  Fee discounted to $60 per month.  Email: info@voiceofthesoul.net.

***Soul Deep Love – Intensive Healing Program –  A series of 5 private hour and a half long phone sessions to support creating and/or nurturing soulmated relationships, healing, overall wellbeing, personal empowerment, abundant flow and spiritual strength.  Series discounted to $350. (You save $100.)  Email: info@voiceofthesoul.net.

***Soul Deep Love – Teleconference Call Workshop Series A 4 workshop weekly phone course that supports all aspects the soulmate relationship journey, and strengthens the heart and spiritual core, positively impacting all aspects of life.  Tuesday evenings, 6:30 to 8:00 p.m. PST, March 29, and April 5, 12, and 19. Special rate of $80 for the series.  Email:  info@voiceofthesoul.net.

*******SCHOLARSHIP FUND – Support other’s quests for greater love and wellbeing by contributing any amount to my SCHOLARSHIP FUND.  This allows me to offer more pro-bono work, something for which there is currently a great need.  Email:  info@voiceofthesoul.net.

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EMBRACING THE MAGIC, THE LOVE AND LIGHT OF SPRING!! – Gearing Up For Easter – Post 1

Blessings!

Spring has sprung, and we move from the more internal and reflective time of Winter into the excitement and regeneration of Spring!  If we open to it, we are blessed by the hopefulness of budding new life, by the subtle, sweet fragrance of flowers blooming, by the awakening comfort of increased warmth, by the fire of love, sensuality and passion burning more brightly within us and by the energizing promise of untapped opportunity!  How blessed we are by the countless graces of Spring.

As I write today’s post, it is three weeks until Easter Sunday.  I dedicate these three weeks to more regular posts in support of all of us – myself included – embracing Love and Light with more consciousness, commitment and skill, and creating more solid momentum in manifesting the deeper dreams of our hearts.

In my own practice, Easter is my most powerful spiritual time.  It is my “spiritual calendar year.”  I am interfaith in my ministry, and embrace many different ideologies in my teaching, healing, ministry and personal spiritual development.  I was also born in the Spring, so perhaps this is part of its resonance for me.

Easter is a very potent time for transformation and manifestation! At different points during the year, there is a markedly increased influx of Divine Love, Light and Support showered unto us to bless us, and help us grow and create our dreams more effectively. God, the Holy Ones, the Divine Presence, Mother/Father God, The Great Spirit, the Angels – whatever term aligns most truthfully for you – amp up and fine-tune Their omni-present support of us so we can more quickly and easily heal and move past our limiting patterns that keep us from being everything we are truly meant to be.

If we actively work with the heightened showering of Love and Light that is present through the blessings of the Spring Equinox and of the Lenten and Easter Seasons, we have the opportunity to dramatically “break new ground” in achieving our personal, spiritual and professional goals. Following are some tips for doing so:

1.  Schedule in (as soon as possible) some time to tune in, identify and write down your current intentions, dreams and visions for yourself and for your loved ones. Putting it on paper helps you to ground it more solidly – both in the world, and in your consciousness.

2.  Do some sort of heart-felt ceremonial tribute to them to consciously and physically commit yourself to their creation! You can do a spiritual ritual, speak them passionately out loud in a favorite nature spot, do a collage or other type of creative piece, write them onto a nice piece of paper and keep them at your bedside, under your pillow, on an altar . . .

3.  Give yourself time to tune in and simply embrace and absorb the increased Love and Light. This will strengthen and bless you, and give your powerful soul more oomph in getting you and your life to where you want to be.

Your soul knows how to work with the increased Divine support and pull all this together. So, if you feel scared, over-whelmed or unnerved by you’re unfolding growth, just try to relax into it and turn it over to your soul, and to the Divine Presence through your soul, and it will get you where you need to be for your greatest joy, health and wellbeing!!  Open and welcome in the Good!!!

For more support on this, and on growing in love and heart, tune in again soon, as we all work more consciously with and gear up for the Magic of Easter together. Also, check out the various options that are available through my work listed below.

FOLLOWING ARE WAYS YOU MAY SUPPORT YOURSELF AND OTHERS IN LOVING MORE DEEPLY:

Refer:  I build my business by referral.  If you have found this work beneficial, you can help me to reach more people by referring this site to friends.  Thank you!!

***Heart & Soul Food – a powerful weekly phone opportunity to connect spiritually, tap into my strength with love and prayer, and establish momentum for the creation of your dreams.  Heart & Soul Food supports soulmate relationships, sacredness in love and life, abundant flow, health, spiritual alignment and wellbeing.  Thursday evenings, 6:30 – 7:30 p.m. PST.  Fee discounted to $60 per month.  Email: info@voiceofthesoul.net.

***Soul Deep Love – Intensive Healing Program –  A series of 5 private hour and a half long phone sessions to support creating and/or nurturing soulmated relationships, healing, overall wellbeing, personal empowerment, abundant flow and spiritual strength.  Series discounted to $350. (You save $100.)  Email: info@voiceofthesoul.net.

***Soul Deep Love – Teleconference Call Workshop Series A 4 workshop weekly phone course that supports all aspects the soulmate relationship journey, and strengthens the heart and spiritual core, positively impacting all aspects of life.  Tuesday evenings, 6:30 to 8:00 p.m. PST, March 29, and April 5, 12, and 19. Special rate of $80 for the series.  Email:  info@voiceofthesoul.net.

*******SCHOLARSHIP FUND – Support other’s quests for greater love and wellbeing by contributing any amount to my SCHOLARSHIP FUND.  This allows me to offer more pro-bono work, something for which there is currently a great need.  Email:  info@voiceofthesoul.net.


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The Heart Of Healing – Sending Love To Japan

I send out my heart to all of us, and most especially to those who are most directly impacted, as we collectively grieve and heal and grow in the wake of the tsunami and earthquake in Japan.  May we all hold our Japanese brothers and sisters, creatures, plants and environments lovingly within our hearts and cradled in the Light, Love and Grace of Divine Presence.

We are all within a period of profound purification and transformation as this traumatic experience continues to reveal itself, and bruise.  We are all being held to a higher standard, and through this shocking sorrow and vast destruction, we have the potential, as a people, to grow beyond, and as a result of, this trauma; to boldly rise to the occasion and unite as a global community more fully and with greater consciousness.

THE POWER OF LOVE IS THE GREATEST OF ALL POWERS.  It is the force from which we draw sustenance.  Our very breath and life itself is Love. In this time of suffering and grace and healing and beauty, let us grow in our awareness of the greatness of Love within and around us!  And, too, let us grow in our awareness of the greatness of our own hearts and their capacities for love!!

Whether we are professional practitioners of the healing arts or not, our hearts, and the greatness of love that are their defining characteristic, have a vast, and yet fully untapped, ability to foster healing.  We are all healers and creators through love.

We create channels for healing and Divine support by placing our attention to our hearts, and the love that we hold for others, and the love that we hold for the Divine Presence if that is part of our personal ideologies – or for the Universe itself, if it is not – and we extend our love and hearts out to hold those suffering in comfort, love and light.  We can also wish to envision joining our hearts with the countless others who hold the world in Love.

We may do so verbally, through prayer, or clarifying intention, or we may do it simply through feeling and embracing this higher vision for love and wellbeing.  Having passion for it, aligning with the depth of what we feel in this, is the key, and gives our vision more power.

Using love and heart with consciousness in these ways, is a powerful and profound gift for each of us, as well.  It strengthens our heart muscles, deepens our capacities for love and provides our our souls with a clearer, stronger foundation through which they may create our lives with more love, meaning and joy.

Let us open and join our hearts in love, that we may support our brothers and sisters in Japan, and drink more deeply of the chalice and heart of global community!

FOLLOWING ARE WAYS YOU MAY SUPPORT YOURSELF AND OTHERS IN LOVING MORE DEEPLY:

Refer:  I build my business by referral.  If you have found this work beneficial, you can help me to reach more people by referring this site to friends.  Thank you!!

***Heart & Soul Food – a powerful weekly phone opportunity to connect spiritually, tap into my strength with love and prayer, and establish momentum for the creation of your dreams.  Heart & Soul Food supports soulmate relationships, sacredness in love and life, abundant flow, health, spiritual alignment and wellbeing.  Thursday evenings, 6:30 – 7:30 p.m. PST.  Fee discounted to $60 per month.  Email: info@voiceofthesoul.net.

***Soul Deep Love – Intensive Healing Program –  A series of 5 private hour and a half long phone sessions to support creating and/or nurturing soulmated relationships, healing, overall wellbeing, personal empowerment, abundant flow and spiritual strength.  Series discounted to $350. (You save $100.)  Email: info@voiceofthesoul.net.

***Soul Deep Love – Teleconference Call Workshop Series A 4 workshop weekly phone course that supports all aspects the soulmate relationship journey, and strengthens the heart and spiritual core, positively impacting all aspects of life.  Tuesday evenings, 6:30 to 8:00 p.m. PST, March 29, and April 5, 12, and 19. Special rate of $80 for the series.  Email:  info@voiceofthesoul.net.

*******SCHOLARSHIP FUND – Support other’s quests for greater love and wellbeing by contributing any amount to my SCHOLARSHIP FUND.  This allows me to offer more pro-bono work, something for which there is currently a great need.  Email:  info@voiceofthesoul.net.

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Finding Your Soulmate – Post 8 – The Warrior Path

Greetings from “not-so-sunny” California.  This lovely March afternoon is wintry and grey, bringing us wisely into ourselves more deeply.  Please forgive my delay in writing.  I needed a little internal time.  (At the bottom of this posting, your will find resources to support yourself and others in deepening into love and wellbeing.)

Today, we will be exploring what I call “the Warrior Path” of soulmated love.  People sometimes ask me why I name both my blog and my upcoming book on the subject, “Song Of The Soulmate – A Love Warrior’s Guide.”  They wonder what being a warrior has to do with love.  From my perspective, it has a lot to do with it!

Soulmated love helps us to become more fully aligned with who we truly are.  It has the potential in all contexts, but especially with deep romantic love, to bring out the very best in us.  This is because, if we open, and genuinely respond to it, soulmated love amplifies, gives voice to and strengthens our souls.  It makes it easier for our souls to create lives that express and support “the best we can be.”

For this to optimally take shape for us, we must be courageous enough to transform in response to the growth this great love stimulates.  As we’ve talked about, soulmated love demands truth.  It is “of truth,” so it CANNOT grow and exist in healthy ways without truth.

This means that to have this kind of love, we must be willing to face the hard issues; embrace both our frailties and our beauty; be honest with ourselves and with our loved ones; and actively, progressively and regularly “clean ourselves up.”  True soulmated love cannot live when we hide from our own light, when we shield ourselves from love through giving too much power to pride or fear, or when we give in to the momentum of mediocrity, self-absorption and inertia.

The Warrior Path, as we have come to know it through mythology, (in its higher expression) is brave and heroic.  This great path, in the context of soulmated love, is equally so.

The Warrior Path is, in many ways, a narrow one, as it is the path that responds to, and leads us evermore deeply into, Truth.  It is a beacon, illuminating the night, that teaches us what it really means to love and be loved.  It is a stalwart, driving force that refines, strengthens, heals, ennobles and empowers us.

Truth is constant and unwavering.  It is “king” and has no sympathy for the false manipulations of the wounded ego.  The Warrior Path is its most diligent and devoted “knight!”  Its humble, life-long and dedicated servant!

The Warrior Path for each of us evolves as we evolve, and the greatness of deep soulmated love is both a blessed recipient of its devotion and the source of its sustenance and very life itself.

Our souls know how to walk this great path.  By simply choosing truth and deeper love, we are choosing, and venturing boldly forward upon the Warrior Path.  This great, fierce, gorgeous and glorious path IS the path to great soulmated love, and as well, to a magical and soul-fulfilling life.

May your Warrior Path be rich with joy, grace, beauty, abundance and miracles.

Following are ways you may support yourself and others loving more deeply:

***Heart & Soul Food – a powerful weekly phone opportunity to connect spiritually, tap into my strength with love and prayer, and establish momentum for the creation of your dreams.  Heart & Soul Food supports soulmate relationships, sacredness in love and life, abundant flow, health, spiritual alignment and wellbeing.  Thursday evenings, 6:30 – 7:30 p.m. PST.  Fee discounted to $60 per month.  Email: info@voiceofthesoul.net.

***Soul Deep Love – Intensive Healing Program –  A series of 5 private hour and a half long phone sessions to support creating and/or nurturing soulmated relationships, healing, overall wellbeing, personal empowerment, abundant flow and spiritual strength.  Series discounted to $350. (You save $100.)  Email: info@voiceofthesoul.net.

***Soul Deep Love – Teleconference Call Workshop Series A 4 workshop weekly phone course that supports all aspects the soulmate relationship journey, and strengthens the heart and spiritual core, positively impacting all aspects of life.  Tuesday evenings, 6:30 to 8:00 p.m. PST, March 29, and April 5, 12, and 19. Special rate of $80 for the series.  Email:  info@voiceofthesoul.net.

*******SCHOLARSHIP FUND – Support other’s quests for greater love and wellbeing by contributing any amount to my SCHOLARSHIP FUND.  This allows me to offer more pro-bono work, something for which there is currently a great need.  Email:  info@voiceofthesoul.net.

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Finding Your Soulmate – Post 7 – Intimacy

Welcome!  As I write this blog, it is two evenings after Valentine’s Day.  It’s been a busy time for me, and a beautiful one.  My day was lovely and nourishing.  I hope that yours was equally so.

Tonight we will explore the art of intimacy and how to strengthen our capacities for it.  It is a rich, deep, multi-layered subject, and one that we will look into in future postings as well.

What does it mean to be truly intimate with another, particularly a beloved.  To me, it means that we are brave enough to share ourselves with our love with an open, receptive, compassionate and expressive heart.  It means that we are present, vulnerable and dynamic in loving them.  It means that we are willing to love them with our bodies, in whatever ways are appropriate for our relationship, to share our emotions honestly and courageously, and to be lovingly present in receiving them in all these ways.  It means we commit to ourselves not to play games when we are with them, or hold part of ourselves back or pay attention only to their needs or only to our own, rather than to both.  It means we are willing to be transformed by the power of love, to change and be made more true, more whole in ourselves, more real, more alive.

Being able to nurture this kind of intimacy is a process of personal and spiritual evolution.  We cannot expect ourselves to be there immediately.  We have to be loving and patient with ourselves, too, and we have to allow both of us to strengthen that “muscle” through working it.

When we have difficulties with intimacy, it is usually a trust issue of some sort.  Our fear is triggered by sharing ourselves openly with another because of past pain we may have experienced.  We may feel afraid, even subconsciously, that it may happen to us again, or that if our beloved really knew us, they wouldn’t love us anymore.  Many of us have conscious and subconscious messages that we don’t deserve love, that we aren’t lovable or worthy of being loved deeply.

This belief is simply and unequivocally FALSE.  No matter who we are, what we’ve done, what messages we’ve absorbed, EVERYONE DESERVES TO BE LOVED, EVERYONE IS LOVABLE.  Some of us work very hard to be unlovable because that is what we believe about ourselves, but in Truth, everyone is inexpressibly deeply loved by the Holy Ones, and deserving of boundless love in life.

So, how do we work with trust issues?  It starts with first of all recognizing that we want more truth and intimacy in our lives and relationships, and being willing to grow in order to create that.  And then, being willing to keep reconstructing our sense of selves so they are more true, so that we can let go of the false messages we’ve adopted that tell us we are undeserving of love, or that love will fail us.  (We addressed this issue in the last two posts.)

Oftentimes, we repeatedly choose romantic partners that play out these unhealthy messages that we have absorbed in our wounded sense of selves.  So, in learning to cultivate healthy and genuine intimacy, we also need to make healthy choices.  We need to choose a romantic partner from our higher, healthier, more true sense of self that emerges when we start bringing more consciousness to this issue, operating with more awareness, self-love and wisdom, and diffusing the power of our wounded egos.  The stronger we get in this “reconstructed, higher sense of self” the healthier our choices will become.

If we have trouble trusting the people we love, it is first and foremost because we haven’t learned to trust ourselves.  And, when we are not operating in healthy ways, rightly so.  We keep making unhealthy choices for ourselves, or we keep pushing away and sabotaging love, and hurting ourselves – so why should we trust that we won’t keep doing that.

Trust can be developed.  It is a “muscle,” too.  We will develop a stronger foundation of trust in ourselves, and for others, by willingly bringing more consciousness to our choices, and making healthy ones for ourselves.  The more we do it, the stronger we get, our healthier sense of self grows, and the more we can trust ourselves.

When we are able to trust ourselves, it is easier to feel comfortable being intimate because we are stronger in who we are.  We know ourselves better, and we know that we are making healthier choices.  We also know that if it turns out that love doesn’t last, we will be okay.

If we have had a history of betrayals in relationships, or things that haven’t work out, it is also natural to have some anxiety or fear about trying again.  It is often harder to trust.  If we develop a strong foundation in our higher sense of self, it will be easier to go forward and try again.  To have love in our lives, we have to be willing to keep trying, to risk our hearts, to heal from our emotional bruises, learn from them and open to love again.

Every relationship teaches us something of value, even the most difficult.  Look at what the “bruises” teach you, about yourself and about love, and go forward into love again – when you are healed sufficiently – with more wisdom and a stronger sense of self.  Build your trust in self, and learn to trust others by allowing yourself to love wise, courageously and intimately.  When we have learned to trust ourselves, our abilities to grow through it when we have been hurt, and to trust others through making healthier choices, then growing into ever-deepening levels of intimacy with your beloved becomes a natural part of our deep inborn desires to open and embrace love whole-heartedly.

Until next time, may Love shine forth its Grace bountifully unto you!

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Finding Your Soulmate – Post 6 – Reconstructing Our Sense Of Self

Good evening, Everyone!  I hope that you have had a beautiful and love rich day.  It has been so for me, and I feel truly blessed and grateful!

Let’s keep going with our diligent work towards cultivating deeper and higher love for ourselves.  In FYS – Post 5, we talked about facing our fears, releasing the control of the egos, and bringing more consciousness and loving attention to our hearts.

Another constructive step we can take to shift out of the knee-jerk, automatic behavioral choices of our wounded egos to a healthier, more adult and genuine interaction with our loved ones is to actively reconstruct our sense of self.  Our wounded self-perceptions are far from who we truly are, even though we have generally learned to embrace them unabashedly and without question!!  We usually create our lives in response to them without realizing that these self-perceptions are false, limited or distorted.

We can start this “reconstruction” process by actively identifying our positive traits.  A simple way of doing that is to make a list of at least 20 to 30 POSITIVE qualities that you have.  It is okay if they are similar – like smart and intelligent – because each one has a different connotation.  Even though it may sound simple, I find that people often have trouble coming up with that number, or even getting going.  If you are struggling with this idea, it helps to think of what nice things other people may say about you, or to ask a friend or family member what positive traits you have.  The more you can come up with, the better.  This list can also be used as a sort of “living document” to which you can keep adding as you strengthen in your authentic sense of self.

Many of my clients also refer to it when they need a boost, if someone has put them down, or if they find themselves slipping into old, unkind, limited thought patterns about their value or lovability.  Beating ourselves up will NEVER get us to where we want to be in cultivating higher love.

Having identified these more accurate and affirming qualities brings them more solidly to the forefront of your awareness, and gives you more “ammunition” – both in bringing consciousness into your loving and in choosing to not interact in an automatic and inauthentic manner.

Something else that helps us rebuild our sense of self in a truer and more empowered way is through tuning in to what is inside you. Who are you in a deeper sense?  What might your heart and soul teach you about yourself?  What have you always known was inside you, but was afraid to embrace?  What are your dreams?  What talents want to be nurtured?  Going deeper teaches us much more about our true selves than we might imagine.

There will always be circumstances in life that trigger our old wounds – at least until we get strong enough in our new, truer sense of self that there is no longer a need to learn from the old wounds.   If we have more tools in our tool belt, like those that develop from being willing to see ourselves more deeply and truthfully, we have more to work with when we do get triggered.  We can assess which, of our array of behavioral choice options, is the healthiest, most truthful, loving and beneficial for us to make.  We can also rebound through the pain caused by the triggers more quickly.

Reconstructing our sense of self so it is more aligned with heart and truth frees us of the oppression and dissatisfaction we experience from allowing our wounded egos to reign over our lives.  It is not a simple or immediate change.  It takes dedication and committed effort, but each triumph strengthens our hearts; thus, healing and empowering our lives.  Before you know it, things that might have previously thrown you into a tail spin, will barely have an impact.

In our next post, we will be going forward with our new found strength of self and exploring more deeply the art of genuine intimacy.  Please join us.

Until then, may your Magnificent and Glorious Heart teach you more fully each moment of its true Beauty!

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Finding Your Soulmate – Post 5 – Face Your Fears

Warmest greetings on this beautiful Winter afternoon!  Valentine’s Day is rapidly approaching, and love is on many of our minds perhaps a bit more strongly than usual.  Let’s run with that!

The mark of any great soulmate relationship is that it demands truth – that we be better; that we strive to perpetually become the very best we can be, to expand, to flourish, to evolve, to wholeheartedly dance and sing the beauty within and between us!! For higher love to exist and flourish, there is room ONLY for truth!

That is a big statement.  What does that mean in the context of daily life and in our efforts to actively find our soulmate and life-partner?  Speaking from a wealth of personal experience with this matter, it means that we have to both be courageously willing to look honestly at our behaviors and their underlying motivations, and then be courageously willing, also, to accept responsibility for anything less than genuine and loving and change them.

If we want to have new and deeper love in our lives, we cannot expect that to occur without changing.  There is simply no way around it!  We have to be willing to grow and change – ourselves, our behaviors and our lives – so they are more truthful; so that they are more aligned with our hearts and souls, our inner beings!

Higher love is imprinted in our souls, and when we create a clearer pathway of relationship and support with our hearts by bringing consciousness and alignment to them, our souls have a “greener light,” so to speak, for drawing to us our beloved ones.  (Remember that the heart is the voice of the soul, and the bridge between physical and spiritual life!  It is through our hearts that our souls create the meaningful, abundant, joyous and love-filled lives we are destined to have.  If we ignore or belittle our hearts, our souls are stifled.)

We have each developed a repertoire of defense mechanisms and personality traits, from which we draw in order to operate socially and functionally – usually without thinking much about it.  Some are very important and useful, and some prevent us from creating the deeper dreams of our hearts.

If we look at mistakes we’ve made in previous relationships, that is a good place to start in assessing what learned behaviors are beneficial for us and what are not.  Repeated patterns in relationships indicate that something is blocking our flow of love and heart.  It keeps coming up so we can learn from it.

What makes it tricky for us in getting to where we need to be with this is that we have all learned to automatically respond in distorted ways to life.  We’ve learned to let our wounded ego’s, our pain, false pride and fears, run the show.  This blocks and confines our precious hearts, which for our wellbeing and happiness, SHOULD be running the show!!

This distorted automatic response to relationships and situations means that there is generally not very much consciousness put into our behavioral choices.  We often feel like there is no other option for us because we have placed so much weight upon the wounded part of our personalities.

In working through our fears, the starting point is to realize we have choices!   Most of the time, the automatic defense mechanisms and personality traits originated when we were children or at a point in the past that no longer pertains to our current relationships or situations.

When we bring consciousness to our relationships, and ask ourselves whether the behavioral choice we are wanting to make is appropriate to the situation and in our best interest as an adult and at this point in our lives and relationship, we are disabling the control of our wounded sense of self, and THAT is key to our happiness.

Allowing the wounded ego to run the show, rather than the heart, as most of us have learned to do in life, is the single most factor keeping us from having the life, love, abundance and fulfillment we are destined to have!!!

Changing this behavioral pattern is not a “quick fix.”  It is usually deeply ingrained in our psyches, and making these changes usually triggers the fear in our ego structures.  They “up the anti” to try to reassert control.  Our wounded senses of self do not like to loose control, even for a moment!

The key is to keep moving through the fear and keep giving the reins back to the heart, no matter how scary and awkward that feels!  It will feel that way at first, until it becomes a more organic process.  However, our hearts strengthen rapidly when we give loving attention and support to them, and before long, its “muscle” will be well developed, and from this place of stronger heart, love will flow more freely for us!!

Remember, too, that the Holy Ones are ALWAYS by our sides, walking this path with us, and if we welcome in Their love and blessings and help, They are instantly with us, and a clearer pathway is created for them to assist with our healing and growth!

Let’s all look carefully at what we are afraid of in love, how we shield and restrict our capacities to love and be loved, and resolve to boldly challenge and change our tenacious, foolhardy and fear-based patterns!  Eleanor Roosevelt encouraged us to do something we are afraid of every day!!  Facing our fears head on, and moving boldly and bravely through them, is a fabulous way to strengthen our hearts, build character and align with our true selves!

May the Angels and Blessed Ones hold us all close as we boldly face and rise above our fears!!

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Finding Your Soulmate – Post 4 – The Divine Marriage

Spring is in the air again here.  Though it is, in actuality, mid-Winter the radiant warmth feeds the fire within my heart, as it opens to share with you once more in the beauty of soulmated love.  There is so much to explore with this subject!  The more I write, the more strongly this becomes apparent.  So, I have decided that we will continue this more intensive work on finding a romantic soulmate partner beyond Valentine’s Day, as well, until it feels like a good stopping point.  I will write on it as frequently as work and life permits.  Please forgive the delays in between postings.

Today we will be looking more closely at the spiritual connection of soulmated love.  One thing to keep  in mind as we work on creating greater sacredness in our loving, and on finding the soulmate who is our life partner, is that higher love is far greater than the mind can fully understand.  It is “okay” if we don’t fully understand it.  In fact, it is actually better if we allow our minds to open to the fact that it is not “linear,” to remind ourselves that we don’t need to control it mentally.  Staying locked in the mind about it actually prevents it from coming into form.

Soulmated love is, of course, of the heart!  To have it in our daily lives, we need to learn to let the heart lead, not the mind, and embrace not only the intellectual or sexual experiences of love, but also the divine, fluid and expansive.  If, as you read these posts, and work with these concepts, you feel overwhelmed mentally or have trouble grasping the entirety of the concepts, know that the essence of it that is expressed through the writings will still be striking a chord within you and feeding your own magnetic pull and source of heart and resonance.  You are still getting to where you wish to be in finding your soulmate or growing in love if you simply absorb it, work with the ideas that make sense to you mentally, and open to the presence of love within and around you.  So, all that said, let’s explore the spiritual connection in soulmated love more closely.

Our soul families have often been with us spiritually for eons.  In many ways, they are extensions of our own souls.  Members of a soul family often agree (in the spiritual realms) to come together to assist each other in growth and wellbeing.

Our higher selves, our soulmates, and the Holy Ones work together spiritually to orchestrate ways that we can come together in our various lifetimes to support each other in expressing this beautiful soul essence that we share.   Our soulmates support us in countless ways, helping us to identify and have the courage to face the hard issues, to clear what is holding us back, to try new things, to push ourselves further, to create more freely, to heal more deeply and to love more purely.   As we’ve discussed, through honoring and exploring the great love between soulmates, in whatever context reveals itself, we are made more whole!  We come closer to being actualized and fulfilled.

The “work” that we do with our soulmates and the Blessed Ones in the spiritual realm does not end with the orchestration of our physical world relationships.  The higher expressions of each of us exist concurrently with our physical lives.  The love between soulmates lives and “works” multi-dimensionally.

For example, with my own beloved soulmate, whom I will identify as “C,” we had a lesson on the physical plane that taught us both more about healthy boundaries.  He tended to have too many boundaries, and I tended to not have enough.  We both learned, by navigating through a minor difficulty, how to have healthier boundaries.  My love said that it was like we were teaching each other to find what Plato called the “mean,” the middle or balance point, and he was right.  We strengthened in ourselves, and in the foundation of our love through this lesson.

Because of my well developed spiritual abilities, I am also aware of our connection on the spiritual plane, and some of the blessings we facilitate for the world and for each other spiritually.  From a higher spiritual standpoint, at the time we were learning this lesson physically, we were also working at both the physical and spiritual levels to help us each be stronger and more sovereign in ourselves so we can fulfill our individual and mutual paths better. We were strengthening in our warrior selves so we could better anchor our love, and bless each other and the world.

If we allow it, this “Higher Love Affair” keeps us growing in love on the physical plane, and helps us work through the tough lessons with our precious love in tact and stronger. Consciously turning challenges and fears over to the Higher Love between you and your beloved will help you heal in the ways necessary and lift you through whatever encumbers the sweet and sacred flow of devotion between you.

What I often see when I work with clients in support of creating or nurturing a soulmate relationship is that the soulmates are already “married” on the spiritual plane.  There exists a “Divine Marriage” between them, even if they have not yet found each other.  Though this marriage exists whether the relationship is manifested physically or not, it grows in response to the growth of the individuals, and of the love when it comes into form physically.  It has a sort of symbiotic relationship with its physical expression.

The “Divine Marriage” exists first, and is created, in part, to support the manifestation of the love on the physical plane.  Those of us who have been longing for a soulmate, have felt that “Divine Marriage” many times.  It is innate to the yearning.  It is part of the magnetic pull and the drive that is expressed from the heavenly realms to help us create it.

We can work with this powerful truth actively to help us create the relationship of our dreams by welcoming it into us, letting it “speak” to us, teach us its vocabulary and help us transform in the ways we need to transform in order to manifest this exquisite and potent love.  Embrace the Divine Marriage or Higher Love Affair, feel it, celebrate it, honor it, listen to it, rejoice in it, express it, physically respond to it and trust it.  It has a life and truth of its own, and it’s deepest dream is to help us bring this great love into form.

Until next time, may you feel the Divine Marriage within you ever more deeply and joyfully.

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Finding Your Soulmate – Post 3 – More On The Pull

Good morning!  Welcome to Post 3 of our Valentine month-long intensive on finding a romantic soulmate partner and creating greater sacredness in love in all relationships!  It is another glorious day, at all levels, and I feel the “Magic” continuing to grow for all of us!  How blessed we are to live in this miraculous time!!

In the previous two posts, we talked about the power of the innate soul resonance fundamental to soulmate relationships; how it blesses not only the lovers, but the world; and how this deep resonance, coupled with our Soul’s fierce quintessential drive to express the Love within it, creates a powerful magnetic pull between soulmates.  Through bringing more consciousness to the existence of this pull, we can use it to help support us both in finding one another.  Let’s go deeper yet in exploring this potent tool.

The magnetic pull is also a partial expression of the great love between soulmates.  It reflects but a fraction of how deeply and passionately we are linked with these beloved ones in a higher sense.  They are part of our soul family!  They have come into our lives to help us grow more fully in Truth and Joy.  Whatever its purpose, for however long it lasts, platonic or romantic, each soulmate bond has the potential to offer us deeper and clearer alignment with our inner beings, and thus, with Divinity Itself.  This is the source of our overall wellbeing and fulfillment.

When we tap into the resonance and pull that we feel with a soulmate, we have the opportunity to learn more about love, about ourselves, and about the love between us and our beloved ones. Love is our essence.  It is the fire within our souls that yearns to express itself without restriction.

We can actively work with this powerful resonance and magnetic pull to go deeper into our true natures, and strengthen our relationships with them.  Doing this offers us a host of invaluable benefits – more than we can fully understand!!    However, lets look more carefully at what we can.

It is only logical that if we better understand who we are; what we long for; how we express love; what no longer serves us in relationships; what our deeper dreams in life, love and work are; what gifts we bring to love; where we still need healing or strengthening in order to truly love, etc., we are better prepared when great love comes along!  This, among many other blessings, is what we stand to receive when we open to the deep flow of love within us, and the pull we feel for our precious soulmates makes it easier for us to feel that love and grow through our fears and resistance.  Whether they are in our lives yet, or not, the resonance between us shines a bright and compassionate light, illuminating our path towards self-awareness and actualization!

When we have this stronger, healthier core from which to draw sustenance as we create our lives, we are also, of course, better equipped to nurture and sustain higher love in a healthy way.   It gives us more strength for everything we wish to create for ourselves.

As we’ve discussed, our gorgeous soulmates are already imprinted within us.  Their soul, their essence, already exists within our souls.  In a higher sense, we are already united, and blessing each other and the world at a spiritual level.  When we tap into the resonance and magnetic pull between us and our beloved ones, we create a clearer and more receptive channel for this higher love that already exists – the divine marriage, if you will – to be able to create this union on the physical plane.  Soulmated love begins first in the spiritual realms!

Perhaps a useful way of looking at it is to think of it as Michelangelo thought of his sculpture.  He knew that the masterpiece was already embodied within the marble, and he need only work to reveal it.  In manifesting soulmated love on the physical plane, we truly are creating a masterpiece – between the lovers – and also as an immeasurable blessing for the world!!  We’ll explore this exquisite Truth more fully in our next post.  See you soon!

May radiant beams of Love and Light always stream forth joyfully unto you!

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